ADHD, Attention Deficit and / or Hyperactivity Disorder, is a neurodevelopmental disorder that involves problems of inattention, impulsivity and hyperactivity. In addition to these difficulties or problems, children with ADHD present or may present academic difficulties (learning difficulties) and also affect the social area of children. And it is that, this disorder also has emotional consequences in them. On our site we talk about self-esteem in children with ADHD.
Children with ADHD are usually children who act and then think, get confused, lose things, do not always comply with the rules, have very "intense" emotional responses, have self-control difficulties, etc ... This brings them negative consequences, punishments, scolding, negative comments towards them.
To this we must add the frustration they feel about what they do, since on many occasions they feel that they do everything wrong, and that no matter how hard they try, they can't do things the way the grown-ups want them to ("I don't do anything right", or "I'm a bad boy" are phrases common to children with ADHD).
It must always be remembered that many of the behaviors and difficulties that these children have, are not conscious, that is, they in most cases do not act like that for pleasure, or knowing what they are doing.
All these difficulties affect the self-esteem of children with ADHD who they tend to have a negative assessment of themselves, which leads them to have more disruptive, extreme behaviors, and a significant lack of motivation.
Let's imagine for a moment the daily life of such a child. She gets up in the morning, and goes to breakfast, and the scolding begins: "Come on, hurry up, have breakfast, go get dressed, but what are you doing playing, if I told you to get dressed, then we won't get to school, as always we will be late again. " Once at school and in class, the child listens for another day, "Take care, take out the books, not that one, the math one, again without doing homework, again without writing down the agenda, don't get up, Again clueless, I told you not to get up .... "and once more at home," Come on, hurry up, do your homework, but don't get lost, you could have finished this already, but we've been two hours and here we continue, you have forgotten the file, I told you to pick up, do not do this, do not do the other ... "Anyway, a day to day that comes loaded with negative comments towards them.
Because on many occasions, even if the child has a diagnosis, we do not always know how to act with them, and even if we know that the child has ADHD, we do not always act appropriately.
According to Doctor Rojas Marcos, Self-esteem is the feeling of appreciation or rejection that accompanies the global assessment we make of ourselves. It is something personal in the sense that each one builds the concept of his "I" with different ingredients, such as the assessment of the ability to relate to others, the aptitude to carry out certain activities, the achievements that we quote, the appearance physical, material things that we possess, intellectual capacity and the joy that we generally feel in everyday life.
Also, self-esteem is also the concept we have of our worth and it is based on all the thoughts, feelings, sensations and experiences that we have gathered about ourselves during our lives. Building and maintaining self-esteem will depend on all of these factors.
Considering all the above, we can think that a child with ADHD is not going to build a positive self-concept and self-esteem. They are children who do not trust their possibilities, they feel insecureThey are irritable and in a bad mood at times, unmotivated, with thoughts of failure, in short they think that they are not capable of coping with school, social or family demands.
That is why it is essential how we adults who relate to the child act. It is very important to never lose sight of in most cases the child does not act "consciously", knowing that what you are doing is wrong.
We have to see the positive aspects of these children, making them see it too, valuing them beyond the academic results or their behavior. They are creative, imaginative, sensitive, spontaneous, fun children, willing to help and collaborate in multiple activities.
It is important to correct them positively, help them with clear guidelines and generate strategies for self-control and organization, establish daily routines that help them organize, value a lot when they do something well, (if they write down the homework in the agenda for example, we will give great importance to that) and when they make a mistake we will help them find a solution, instead of scolding them punish them.
And, if they do not point, what can we do? We can tell him to call a colleague and ask him, without adding more drama to the matter, give them more time to do certain tasks, avoid comparing them with older or younger siblings, help them see the good in them and encourage them to participate in activities in which it develops and is something more than a label of ADHD.
It is normal that they often despair, but we can never lose sight of what they need Support and understandingThat what they do not see of themselves, we must teach them.
The intervention with these children is very important, which is based on a triple action that must be given in a joint and coordinated manner between the Family, school and a specialist in intervention with children with ADHD, (psychologist or psychopedagogue).
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